I guess most of you who read the previous chapter would think:
'Been there, done that'. Of course you have been on that little
adventure and I'm sure some of you tripped over your feet and
fell. You thought it was love and lost your virginity. If you
read my poems and stories you would have noticed that I sent out
a quite a few warning signals. This is serious, young people.
You could end up with a husband you don't love and add to it a
child or two. You will have no other option but to stay in that
marriage for the sake of the children. Chances are you will
never be truly happy, only content, and that is not good enough.
It is not entirely your fault, though. Parents should speak
openly about subjects like love and sex and teach their children
that life is not a game. There are parents who talk to their
children about the birds and the bees and fortunately some of
those children have enough self respect, and choose to wait till
they are old enough to even think about getting married.
Unfortunately the majority of youngsters think they know better.
Some children are just not happy at home and feel they have to
escape, but they usually end up on the street or get into
contact with older people who use them. Please know this: If
anyone asks you to prove your love by being intimate with them,
don't do it! It's a trick to get into your pants. If you think
you partner is intimate with you because he or she loves you, be
careful. It might be another trick to stay in your pants.
I am going to try my best to tell you what love is all about,
and I am sure some of you would agree with me. Those are the
ones who know what true love is. Some people think you have to
know a person well enough to fall in love with him or her. Not
necessarily. I know a girl who was attracted to a man for years.
During those years they never spoke one word. In fact, the man
did not even know the lady existed. It may sound uncanny, but
the lady always knew that some time, the two of them would meet
and she was scared to death, because somehow she knew that if
they got acquainted, he would be the owner of her heart and
soul, forever. It may sound strange, but she could sense his
moods, knew exactly when he was agitated, worried or unhappy.
Then one day they spoke for the first time. Because she thought
he wouldn't pay much attention to her, she wasn't very nervous.
After a short conversation, she turned around and was about to
walk away, when he laid his one hand on her shoulder to hold her
back. Warmth streamed through her body and her heart raced. The
only thing that saved her from making a complete fool of her,
was the ability to close up and not think of what she was
feeling at that moment. She turned around, looked up into his
face, and knew for certain that she would do anything to make
this man happy. She fell hopelessly in love with him. How did
she know this was true love? Every day, she would go on her
knees and pray that the Lord keep him safe, grant him good
health, happiness and fulfill his needs. Never once did she
think of herself.
Love is about giving and wanting nothing in return. Accepting
disabilities and flaws. Not to judge but to help make the wrongs
right. To respect and be considerate. To try not to get angry
but to be patient. To forgive and remember that no one is
perfect. To share the pain and happiness, failures and
successes. To be truthful and trustworthy. To sacrifice your own
happiness for the sake of the one you love. If you are fortunate
enough to know true love, treasure it. If you are still
searching, never give up. If you are still not sure what you are
feeling, search some more. You will recognize it when you feel
it.
If there is someone out there who disagree with me, or want
to chat about love some more, feel free to drop me a line.
Butterfly.
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